How To Save Your Life

The thing about life is that we usually troll along our merry way thinking that everyone lives or thinks the same way. It's just that some people have all the good luck, right? They win the lottery or their rich great-uncle-three-times-removed dies and leaves them a fortune. But you on the other hand are just out of luck. You got the rotten job, the car that breaks down, the felony boyfriend and every time you get a little money someone needs it more than you, so you get stuck with nothing.

Well that's the way it seems because all we know is who we are, what we've experienced, and what we think. Have you ever met someone that thinks totally different than you? The same situation that you were in, but they handled it like it was nothing. That's what I want you to see. Just a few different actions, just a few different responses will change your life.

Decide what you want
I'm not talking about "I want to be a millionaire" or "I want to win the lottery". I'm thinking along the lines of handling your money wiser, making good choices, not blowing your top the first time someone makes you mad, or making more friends.

Change what you remember
If your childhood seems like one misfortune after another, that's what you are thinking of and that will define who you are today. Think of one memory that is along the same thinking as your wants. If you want to make wiser choices, remember a time when you did. Even just one memory. If you want to make friends and have fun with them remember a time that you did, even if it was just one time and it only lasted a week, remember it. The surprising thing is how you will get more memories to back up the first. It works that way.

Act like it is true
If I want to be successful in something, I start by first, deciding I want to be successful at it. Second, I remember a time or times when I was successful. Third, I begin acting or pretending that I will again be successful. If I don't act like it, I'm falling back on the old beliefs. And beliefs are like muscles, the more you use them the stronger they become in your life. The less you use them and ignore them then the weaker they become while the new beliefs are growing stronger.

So change your life by deciding what you want, remembering the memories and feelings that reinforce you wants, then act like it is so. It may take some practice and it will probably feel a bit fake at first, but keep at it. You'll come out on top.

Debt

Meadow DeVor


I would like to share a post from a gutsy, kick-butt author.

The not so pretty story of paying off my debt.

Rumi - Safety

“Forget safety. 
Live where you fear to live.
Destroy your reputation.
Be notorious.”
― Rumi


For more words from Rumi, go to http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/875661.Rumi

Safety First?

My wants.  Safety.

I thought it was prosperity?

No, I want to feel safe. I've tried many things in order to feel safe. Some have worked, like buying my house, my car and having steady job. My savings and paying off my debts haven't been as effective.

But even then would I feel safe?  No.

Is SAFETY what I need?  Maybe I need to get past the need for safety.

Success comes from having a clear goal. The things I have accomplished readily are the things I knew without a doubt that I wanted, clearly and for their own sake. I wanted my own home. I absolutely knew what I wanted. I had the criteria written down.

So, to clearly define my wants is my aim right now.

This need for safety is tripping me up. It may be even in the wrong direction.

So what do I want?  To earn a living without giving up myself. To prosper and be in health.

Chip Conley: Measuring what makes life worthwhile | Video on TED.com

A DRESS, A DREAM

About 10 years ago I had a very epic dream.
It started with an accident on the freeway with anger and confusion. It was overwhelming. I wanted to hide.
The next part was a horrible blood-filled and sad scene. The third scene was of picking up debris after a tornado and storm. Tree limbs and broken things were lying all around, then someone called for me.
My dress was ready, a wedding dress. When I came out, a procession was waiting and I was walking down the outdoor aisle. At that moment I saw myself. Rare in my dreams. I almost didn't recognize my own face. I was beautiful and innocent looking. All of the horror and fear and grief passed in a moment. There was joy.
It was a moving dream and at the time I didn't know if it was for me personally or the world. I've thought often that it was mine alone because my life went through those things, but now I realize it was for our world also. I hope that we as a people are progressing along these lines and will be beautiful brides.

TO JUDGE OR NOT TO JUDGE

What are your Core Judgments? In your mind, what makes a person good or bad? Have you ever thought about it? You know the saying that your initial impression is usually right? Well, yes and no. Yes, it is true to your Core Judgement, but no, it may not be accurate for everyone.

Does it matter what type of car they drive? If a person drives an expensive car, are they rich or snooty? Is a person driving a beat up junker poor or frugal? One of my Core Judgments is cleanliness. I'm not a germ-phobic person but I like people who wash and who care about their physical appearance. My initial reaction to someone with body odor is repulsion. I admit that I'm a bit of a clothing snob also, and I tend to be impressed too quickly by someone who seems put together clothing and style-wise.

Now you know my dirty little secret, I'm curious, what is one thing you consistently notice about a person? You know you have one.